How to conduct exit interviews the right way
Who should run them?
Ideally someone from HR or a senior manager not directly supervising the employee.
When to hold it?
A few days before their final shift – not on their last day.
Where to hold it?
Somewhere quiet and neutral – not on the floor or in the staff room.
How to approach it?
Assure confidentiality, take notes and keep the tone friendly but focused.
Avoid leading questions or reacting defensively. This is a listening exercise.
Exit interview questions – what to do with the feedback
Collecting feedback is only half the job. You need to:
- Look for common themes over time.
- Share anonymised patterns with leadership.
- Use insights to improve onboarding, scheduling or training.
- Celebrate what’s working well too.
Example: If three leavers mention no clear path from CDP to Sous, consider reviewing internal promotion opportunities.
Over time, this process ties directly to exit interviews and employee retention: better insights = better policies = fewer resignations.
Common challenges (and how to solve them)
Staff don’t want to be honest
- Solution: Explain that feedback won’t affect references and responses will be kept anonymous when shared.
People refuse to do them
- Solution: Make it optional but encouraged. Emphasise it’s a chance to improve conditions for those still there.
You get emotional responses
- Solution: Let them vent. Don’t argue. Thank them for their honesty.
Nothing changes after
- Solution: Build a simple monthly exit report and discuss at manager meetings. Even small tweaks show staff their voice matters.
Final thoughts
Exit interviews, done right, help you hear what your hospitality team might not say while they’re still on the rota. Use them to fix what’s broken, keep what’s working and show your team you actually care.
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FAQs on exit interview questions
Are exit interviews mandatory in hospitality?
No, but they’re highly recommended – especially in high-turnover environments like restaurants and hotels.
What should I ask in an exit interview?
Focus on management, support, team dynamics and what could have encouraged them to stay. Tailor some questions to the unique demands of hospitality service.
Are exit interviews confidential?
They should be. Share anonymised summaries, not individual comments. This encourages honesty without fear of repercussion.
Should I share results with my managers?
Yes – but focus on themes, not quotes. Use it as a tool for improvement, not blame.